Do you really believe that when Christ died, that he died for every man on the planet? If you do you have some really big explaining to do. How are you going to justify God for not saving everyone if Christ died for them? How will you explain to those in hell why they are not saved if Christ died for them?
When the Lord Jesus Christ died, his death was a redemption, a payment price to the justice of God that demanded payment for sin from the sinner. Redemption is to pay a price with a view to ransom, rescue, and release. Christ's blood was shed to redeem, to ransom, rescue and release. Now it is obvious that all men are not redeemed, because they are not saved. In fact many who heard Our Lord preach and saw his miracles have been in hell for two millennia.
To believe that Christ died for every single person on this planet flies in the face of God's perfection's. God is perfect in His nature and in all His attributes, right? Universal redemption is contrary to the Love of God. At first it seems to magnify the love of God, but it really reduces it to nothing. He displays God's love in the death of His son and redemption. The love of God in the universal idea of redemption does not secure salvation for anyone. It makes God love Peter no more than Judas, the saints in heaven no more than the damned in hell. Universal redemption says thy were both loved alike, and equally redeemed by Christ. Those who say Christ died for all, do not present the love of God as immutable, and unalterable. It says that God loved men so, that He gave his Son to die for them, wills that they should be saved. Then that love is turned into wrath and fury, and punishes them everlastingly.
Universal redemption is contrary to the Wisdom of God. Where is his wisdom in giving his Son unto death for all alike, and yet multitudes do not benefit from it? I can hear some of you say, that those who perish did not perform the conditions their redemption required. Either God did know, or did not know that these men would not perform the conditions required. If He didn't know, then there is a lack of knowledge in him. If he did know, that they would not perform what was required, where is his wisdom in providing a redemption that would not redeem them? Where is his wisdom in providing a redemption that does not redeem?
I sincerely appreciate your post, and . . . I'm sorry that you are confused.
The word of God is not confusing. If it is, it is because of a wrong interpretation.
If Christ died only to make it possible "that all COULD be redeemed" how can we be sure that any WILL be redeemed?
If you will read John chapter 10 honestly, Christ there identifies those for whom he laid down his life. He calls them His SHEEP (vs.26). It speaks of others who could not believe. Why? They were not his sheep.
I believe if you would also read the first seven verses of Ephesians you will clearly see who "had forgiveness of sin through the redemption that is in Christ".
I am quite confused with your assessment of the Bible. I do not believe that all are redeemed, but I DO believe that Christ died so that all COULD be redeemed IF they believe. However, we know that all will not believe. John 3:16 For God so loved the world (all men) that he gave his only begotten son (Jesus) that whosoever believeth in him would not perish but have everlasting life. Those separated from God chose not to believe. Those who are redeemed believed. Perhaps we are both wrong in our assessments of the Bible. I do not wish to be, I only wish to take God at His Word. His Word makes it clear to me that ALL have the opportunity to come to Him through Christ. I for one will believe.