“ Pornography, modern man's harem ” Please, husbands, PLEASE don't give in to the temptation to view pornography. It is devastating to a wife to discover her husband has viewed pornography. My husband admits to being an occasional user. (Occasional over 20 plus years) He thinks he has it under control and doesn't see the need for an accountability partner. What he does not understand is the damage he has caused to our marriage. Anyone looking in would see a happy couple and indeed we are happy. But there is a deep sorrow in my heart. A sorrow my husband cannot comprehend. A wound that once re-opened gets deeper and deeper. A realisation that what was rightfully mine, his devotion, his eyes, his desire, his 'forsaking of ALL others' has been scattered abroad and will never be fully recovered. Men are often deeply scarred by pornography whether they realise it or not, but be aware that the wife also carries a life sentence.
I have come to believe this but no one I know does. They think it is just a tradition of the past. So I just grow my hair long and live in Biblical silence.
I have been going to my church for many years after growing up Catholic and becoming born again, raising my children in my church but I have noticed small changes that have concerned me. The world is sneaking in and I feel alone that no one else sees it. But maybe they do and I just don't know it. Those who I have talked to do not see it including one of the pastors. The more I read the Bible and get convicted the more I see the change. My husband agrees with me but does not go to any church so does not care enough to find another one for me. So I am staying and seeing what happens....
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