Jeff Crippen, Pastor | Tillamook, Oregon
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A Short Post Consisting of Just one Question
I have one question for pastors, counselors, and anyone else who wants to “counsel” a domestic abuse victim. Actually I have several questions such as “can you tell me what domestic abuse is?” Or, “Tell me how a domestic abuse case differs from other types of marriage counseling cases.” But here is the one I have in mind right now. It’s really a request:
Please write out a list for me of the books that you have read on the subject of domestic abuse, particularly domestic abuse by people who claim to be Christians. And then tell me what you learned.
Guess what? I know the answer. Crickets. With very, very rare exceptions they haven’t read anything written by people who really understand this evil, but worse – they still insist that they are “competent to counsel.”
I guess a followup question as I held their blank list in my hand would be, then don’t you think it would be wise to stop telling victims what to do until you know what you are talking about?
But they won’t. They won’t listen. They will just keep right on practicing medicine without ever going to med school or being an intern.
(originally published at unholycharade.com )
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