The comment of John Calvin on this text is full of wisdom.

“There are three faults by which we offend God in being angry.
The first is, when our anger arises from slight causes, and often from no cause whatever, or at least from private injuries or offenses.
The second is, when we go beyond the proper bounds, and are hurried into intemperate excesses.
The third is, when our anger, which ought to have been directed against ourselves or against sins, is turned against others.
We comply with this injunction, “Be ye angry, and sin not,” if the objects of our anger are sought, not in others, but in ourselves, — if we pour out our indignation against our own faults. With respect to others, we ought to be angry, not at their persons, but at their faults; nor ought we to be excited to anger by private offenses, but by zeal for the glory of the Lord.
Lastly, our anger, after a reasonable time, ought to be allowed to subside, without mixing itself with the violence of carnal passions.”

“Is it any merit to abstain from wine if one is intoxicated with anger?” (Augustine).