Richard I. and Richard W. Gregory have written an important book dealing with the subject of biblical relationships among believers. In the chapter, “You Are the Church,” this father and son make some excellent observations concerning how worship that is designed for the “consumer” fails to produce humility in the people of God.
Worship is so tremendously varied in our churches today, and there are many reasons for this. One reason is we have developed designer worship for the pleasure of the one 'offering' it instead of seeking to conform to the God for whom worship is designed. Believers are under obligation to seek a church where the clear audience during worship is the God of glory, for whom our awed awareness of His central attribute of holiness is displayed. It is for His enjoyment that His truth is thoroughly embraced and celebrated by the one worshiping. Thus, a central theme in worship, as sought by the Lord, is humility. Humility is not seen in the arrogant assertions of morally compromised 'singing stars,' who with contorted faces crank out ballads of affection for their 'significant spiritual other.' The hype engendered by popular Christian 'worship' today is often indistinguishable from that which is generated by an assembly of the worldly listening to a popular secular diva. But to the common Christian today, such 'fun' in church is the essence of a desirable 'worship' experience. Genuine worship stirs contrition not conceit, contentment with God, not the satisfaction of cultural impulses. It motivated us toward maturity. True worship does not affirm the sinner in his mediocrity. It's about humility, not hype! Tozer said it best when he declared that: 'libidinous impulses and the sweet, deep moving of the Holy Spirit are diametrically opposed to one another.'
...We have come to believe the twisted logic that God can be pleased with a form of worship that attracts the ungodly. Either God will be lifted up in worship and sinners brought to humility and repentance, or sinners will be cuddled and affirmed while God is slighted. (pp. 100-101)
The chapter from which these quotations were taken also contains excellent counsel on how to select a Christ-honoring, biblically-driven church. If you are concerned about upholding doctrinal truth in all your relationships, you should get yourself a copy of this important book.