More than 20% of millennials claim to have no friends
No new friends. No old friends. No friends... period?
More than 20% of millennials surveyed in a YouGov poll released this week claimed that they donât have a single friend. And less than a third of Millennials said they have double-digit friends, according to the data, culled online in early July.
Even if younger Americans are overstating their isolation, the jarring numbers reflect long-term rising trends in loneliness. Studies have indicated that loneliness has myriad negative mental and physical health effects.
âStrong social relationships support mental health, and that ties into better immune function, reduced stress and less cardiovascular activation,â Debra Umberson, a professor of sociology at the University of Texas, told Time magazine in 2015....
Looks like all that 'friending' going on in social media is not...all that real. I am brought back to the Bible, to 1 Timothy 5, which talks about the role widows play in church life and in family life. It is a Complete System for Organizing a Christian Society, where families take care of their widows, meaning they stay at home to provide support for the youth (so they will always have a friend there), or the church provides for the widows if that widow has fulfilled certain criteria. Read the chapter yourself to see what it means; don't disregard it, saying, 'oh, that was for Timothy only, like Paul's instruction to him to drink a little wine for his stomach or women wearing head covering because of the angels'
đ A merry heart doeth good like a medicine:but a broken spirit drieth the bones. Proverbs 17:22 Doctor Tim thanks for reminding me of this and giving me a dose of your medicine. I saw a cartoon recently on the editorial page of our newspaper. Nancy P driving a mini bus that had kids with adult faces carrying on like kids, fighting, throwing paper airplanes. As sheâs driving she glances back at them and says âDonât make me have to stop this bus!â Of course her look was so ugly and it made my day. Lol
JAG wrote, âIt takes effort, care and sensitivity.â It sure do, JAG, just like cutting down a hollow oak tree. It takes effort to keep the chainsaw at the proper angle, care to see if the tree is full of bees or the stump full of copperheads, and sensitivity to know when the treeâs falling on your brotherâs pickup and youâd better start putting two or three counties between you.
One of the biggest issues with the millennials is their lack of commitment...
Having friends is not a passive, inconsiderate thing. You can't just turn it on and off like a phone, or Xbox console. It take effort, care, and sensitivity, and you have to be willing to go outside of yourself to grow the relationship...
I think this concept they have, of being lonely, is partially self created simply because they are too selfish and self absorbed to pursue the challenge of having a good friend. This is probably why the millennials are not getting married either. The amount of commitment it takes to be married is even more than having a friend. When you go from caring only for yourself, to completely giving yourself over to the care and growth of your spouse, your dealing with an enormous change that this generation is simply not willing to commit too...
And only time will tell what consequences we'll get from this pattern...
We have become tribal. I live in a neighborhood where we donât know but one neighbor and often cannot trust anyone to watch your house if you leave town. When I was young, the neighbors would sit outside together in the evening and talk. Sad thing is the season that doesnât happen is because the greatest generation has about past on. So, itâs not just 20% of miliennials who donât have friends, itâs many people in general. Christians are not to be that way.
The Lord often refers to us through His word as sheep. John 10 and Psalm 0 come immediately to mind as examples. We are, by nature, social beings (not socialist beings).
While many will point to the psychological and physiological problems this loneliness causes, it is also indicative of a spiritual health problem. Too much self centeredness. Too much social media. Probably no Jesus. Not enough church.
This does present a great opportunity for the local churcb to fill this void both in terms of expressed/preceived need, a friend and fellowship, and actual need, saving faith in Jesus Christ.
At any rate, it woukd appear that these young people have not found that they can be content in whatever state they find themselves in.